Sticking to your resolutions can be difficult.
Most of us would like to change something about ourselves, perhaps becoming healthier is a priority; maybe we want to stop shouting at our children, or perhaps we desperately want a new career but don’t have the confidence to apply for our dream job.
Even with the best intentions, making changes and sticking to them can feel like an uphill challenge. So what can we do to stick to our new habits, to put aside procrastination and transform into the person that we want to be?
In his book, Atomic Habits, James Clear talks about identity based habits:
“The key to building lasting habits is focusing on creating a new identity first. Your current behaviours are simply a reflection of your current identity. …..To change your behaviour for good, you need to start believing new things about yourself. You need to build identity-based habits…. Many people begin the process of changing their habits by focusing on what they want to achieve. This leads us to outcome-based habits. The alternative is to build identity-based habits. With this approach, we start by focusing on who we wish to become.“
Cognitive behavioural therapy implements a very similar approach. Our identity is based around our beliefs and feelings which are inter-related to behaviour and cognition, or thoughts. The most effective way to achieve our goals and break out of bad habits is to simultaneously work on changing our thoughts, feelings and behaviour rather than focusing exclusively on our goals.
If you are keen to make a change in your life, then I can help you in very practical ways by teaching you very proven CBT techniques. When used in conjunction with hypnotherapy you will be in a unique position of strength to make lasting changes and achieve your goals.
Call me on 07990 572900 to discuss the changes you would like to make in your life.